OCD can make you feel trapped in a cycle that’s difficult to step away from even when part of you recognizes that the cycle isn’t helping. It often begins with an unwanted thought, image, urge, sensation, or doubt. These experiences are called obsessions, and they can create intense anxiety, discomfort, guilt, or uncertainty. In response, you may feel driven to do something that helps you feel safer or more certain. These responses are called compulsions. Compulsions aren’t always visible. They can include checking, seeking reassurance, avoiding certain situations, repeating actions, researching, reviewing conversations or events in your mind, or trying to determine exactly what a thought means. They may provide some relief in the moment, but the relief usually doesn’t last. Before long, the doubt returns and the cycle begins again.

Over time, OCD can take up an enormous amount of mental energy and interfere with work, school, relationships, sleep, and everyday activities. Things that once felt simple may become exhausting or filled with uncertainty. If this sounds familiar, it doesn’t mean you’re irrational or that you should simply be able to stop. OCD is designed to make its fears feel urgent and important. With specialized treatment, you can learn to respond differently to intrusive thoughts and uncertainty so OCD has less control over your life.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

THE DOUBTING DISORDER

NO MATTER THE TYPE, HELP IS AVAILABLE

Common Subtypes of OCD

Common Obsessions

Common Compulsions

OCD doesn’t always look like a visible ritual. Avoidance can also become part of the cycle, which may make it harder to recognize.

You might avoid certain people, places, objects, activities, conversations, thoughts, or sensations because they trigger anxiety or intrusive thoughts. Avoidance can also be subtle such as putting off a decision, asking someone else to complete a task, skipping certain words or topics, or only entering a situation when particular safety measures are in place.

Avoidance makes sense when OCD is telling you that something may be dangerous. It’s a very human thing to desire safety, however staying away can bring immediate relief, but it also prevents you from learning that you can handle the discomfort and uncertainty. Over time, more situations may begin to feel unsafe, and your world can gradually become smaller.

Avoidance and OCD

Types of Avoidance

Reassurance seeking can be a less obvious compulsion. Most humans want reassurance in some capacity. However, when an intrusive thought or doubt creates anxiety, it may feel urgent to ask someone else to confirm that everything is okay or that the feared outcome won’t happen.

You might repeatedly ask questions such as, “Are you sure I didn’t do anything wrong?” “Does this mean something about me?” or “Do you think I’m safe?” Reassurance seeking can also include confessing thoughts, researching online, checking with multiple people, asking the same question in different ways, or repeatedly trying to reassure yourself.

Reassurance can bring relief in the moment, but the relief usually doesn’t last. OCD may find a new possibility, question the answer you received, or insist that you ask one more time. Over time, this cycle can take up significant time and energy and create strain or confusion in relationships even when loved ones genuinely want to help.

Reassurance and OCD

Types of Reassurance

Living with OCD can often bring a weight of shame and guilt that's difficult to carry. The thoughts and behaviors driven by this condition might lead you to feel like you're not in control and you're somehow responsible for what is happening in your brain. It's important to understand that these feelings and thoughts are not a reflection of who you are but a product of the disorder itself. The shame and guilt you experience are part of the burden that OCD places on you, creating an internal struggle that's incredibly challenging. In therapy, we can work together in a non-judgmental space to unpack these experiences, help you to recognize that these feelings and thoughts are not your fault, and guide you toward managing them with compassion and understanding. It's possible to navigate through these challenging experiences and find a path towards healing and acceptance.

THE GOLD STANDARD FOR OCD

If you’re struggling with OCD, you may feel trapped in a cycle of intrusive thoughts, anxiety, checking, reassurance seeking, avoidance, or other rituals. Even when you recognize that these patterns aren’t helping, resisting them can feel incredibly difficult.

Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) is one of the most effective treatments for OCD. ERP is a specialized form of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) that helps you gradually approach the thoughts, feelings, sensations, and situations OCD has taught you to fear. At the same time, you’ll practice responding differently instead of relying on compulsions to feel safe or certain. We’ll work collaboratively and move at a pace that feels challenging but manageable. You won’t be expected to face your biggest fears all at once.

Treatment for OCD

I also incorporate Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), which can help you relate differently to intrusive thoughts and distressing emotions. Rather than trying to eliminate every unwanted thought or achieve complete certainty, you’ll learn to make room for discomfort without letting it control your choices.

Together, ERP and ACT can help OCD take up less space, so you have more freedom to make decisions based on what matters to you.

You don't have to keep chasing certainty

When OCD is running the show, it can feel like you just need one more check, one more answer, or one more piece of reassurance before you can finally feel “okay.” But the more you try to get rid of doubt or feel completely certain, the more OCD seems to find another question to ask. Therapy can help you recognize this cycle and practice responding differently, so you can spend less time chasing certainty and more time living your life.

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